It can feel really awkward to start chatting with someone on a dating app. Everything feels cheesier and forced when you're trying to get the conversation going, but it's like ripping off a Band-Aid — soon, the hard part will be over and you'll feel so much better. So if you find it difficult to send the first message, it can help to have some good opening lines on hand. As a basic rule, asking a question or something that suggests they send a reply is much better than just a statement — which can be easy to ignore. And, of course, the best opening lines use a little humor. So if you're not sure how to get started, think about things you can ask them based on their bio — or try one of these opening lines, which are all so much better than "hey.
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35 Good Opening Lines To Use On Dating Apps
Dating mastermind Matthew Hussey shows you how to get a guy's attention on the first try. Try "Are you really into salsa dancing? That's my dream! Also, by telling him "I have no idea if we would get along," you're subtly challenging him to prove that you would, which drives him to please you. Most guys are just looking for an excuse to be invited to speak to you, and now you've allowed him take the lead. Also, using his name makes it personal, which makes him more inclined to write back. For example, if he's wearing a costume in one of his pics, say, "That Buzz Lightyear costume.
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According to relationship and online-dating expert Jess Carbino , PhD, who has served as both Tinder and Bumble's sociologist, the best angle to take is the personal one. Her research suggests that the most effective way to get your match to interact with you is by "creating a point of connection. Carbino says. Erika Ettin, dating coach and founder of online-dating-coaching company A Little Nudge , agrees and adds that injecting humor is always a plus.
Downloading a dating app is the easy part. But toughest of all? Coming up with that first perfectly witty message the minute you match with someone decent. These days, now that women have seen and heard it all on dating apps, making a lasting first impression seems freaking impossible.